We need to start a Parent Revolution to celebrate and share just how perfectly imperfect we all are. We all mess up. We all meltdown. We all feel overwhelmed. Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. It’s difficult! It’s exhausting! You’re not going to cherish every moment. We need to help each other keep margin in our lives, laugh at the craziness, and figure out which balloons to let go. I always say God hand-picked my firstborn, complicated, screaming pterodactyl to humble me. I cried for months, then learned to laugh…and pray.
“Embrace the chaos” became my new mantra as God gave me two more children. 3 babies in 31 months. I threw in the towel on the mother I thought I would be, and realized I am exactly the mother my children need me to be…perfectly imperfect. As I share ideas with you from the good times, please know there are plenty of times I have no idea what to do or say or am just too tired to do it. My husband and I have meltdowns too. I hope I share that part of parenting and teaching enough with you too.
Parenting tears marriages apart if you can’t embrace the chaos. Laugh about it. Go on fake dates once in awhile if you can. Take a pay it forward approach with one another. Push your spouse out the door for a mental break. Schedule your spouse a tee time or lunch with friend or if they mention guy/girl trip help make it happen. Keep dating each other. Send him/her funny texts or pictures. Leave a post-it note on their car dash. It’s the little, daily things that I love. Take care of each other as meticulously as you take care of your cute babies.
But not always. I’m still kind of mad at this Target moment.
Try to laugh even when it means living in an imperfect house, like when your toddler won’t stop climbing on the chairs to get on top of the table...(Need to add this to our Revenge Plan!)
or when you can sweep this much crunch off the floor after a busy afternoon. Is that bacon? Did we have bacon that day?
Don’t let it boil your blood when you can’t get that perfect family picture. Frame it. And, don’t just post the perfect pictures on Facebook and blogs. Share the chaos. We all need to see we’re not the only ones.
Let’s climb those mountains of reality together. To me, being a super mom/dad means being super real, super honest, and being super silly with all this super chaos.
Shelisa–A Mother who is currently behind on laundry, has clutter on her countertops, is serving cereal for dinner tonight because I keep putting off making a meal plan because that requires going to the store.