The calendars are full enough. The budget is empty enough. The big recharges are too limited by logistics, and if I only wait on those, I get grumpy. I’ve learned to find little recharges. Power up. A good book in the hammock. Turning up a great song and singing my guts out, or dancing like a fool in my kitchen. Taking my cuppa tea to the patio for a few minutes. An extra long shower or bath. A prayerful walk. Turning a colander in the middle of making dinner into a quick, free steam facial. Pause. Breath. Laugh, because you’re using a colander as a free steam facial. Laugh, because you don’t feel desperate, you feel grateful. Ok, maybe a little desperate.
I’m happier when I help my husband find some sanity moments too. Daily. Weekly. Simple stuff. Guilt not included. A foot rub. Handing him the iPod with his favorite song playing. A sticky note on his bathroom mirror. Pushing him out the door to run or ride his bike or golf or fish. It’s easy to say “keep dating” each other, but with a houseful of kids it is harder. Get out on real dates when you can, but look for the little stuff…”chase” each other again. Do you like me? Yes. No. Check One.
It adds up. We’re all a sum of the little moments. If we’re only giving, giving, giving, there’s nothing left to give. Don’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself. It’s a valuable lesson for your kids too. When their lives starts spinning faster, they need to know ways to slow it down in big ways…but especially in little ways.
Tell me, how do you recharge?